The Write Idea


I Wonder by Derek Tasker

Filed under: Poetry — ljcollins @ 11:47 am

A friend sent me this poem by Derek Tasker a few years ago when I was dealing with a particularly difficult person. Today, my birthday, I offer it to myself and all of you, as a possibility. I wonder, too.

I Wonder

I wonder what would happen if

I treated everyone like I was in love

with them, whether I like them or not

and whether they respond or not and no matter

what they say or do to me and even if I see

things in them which are ugly twisted petty

cruel vain deceitful indifferent, just accept

all that and turn my attention to some small

weak tender hidden part and keep my eyes on

that until it shines like a beam of light

like a bonfire I can warm my hands by and trust

it to burn away all the waste which is not

never was my business to meddle with.


  1. Very, very nice! And happy birthday too!

    Comment by Cold Hands Warm Art — 03/11/2010 @ 11:59 am | Reply

  2. I don’t even treat people I’m in love with this well. 😉

    Happy birthday a zillion times, my friend!

    Comment by PJ — 03/11/2010 @ 1:18 pm | Reply

  3. Thanks, you two. @PJ — yeah, me either. I might still be married if I did! (or not …)

    Comment by ljcollins — 03/11/2010 @ 1:49 pm | Reply

  4. Happy Birthday! Great to see you last week. Thanks for the present of the poem.

    Comment by JStokes — 03/11/2010 @ 10:46 pm | Reply

  5. Reblogged this on Less is More.

    Comment by helendiamond — 03/14/2015 @ 10:41 am | Reply

  6. In Buddhism there is someone called’ Boddhisatva Never Disparaging’ He taught what this poem is saying. This man was despised by people because he had different ideas than they had. They threw rocks at him constantly. But he did not harbor ill feelings toward them because he knew they really didn’t understand why they did what did. He never disparaged them. He knew that deep inside everyone, no matter what they portrayed on the outside, a ‘Buddha Nature’ resided in each one. He couldn’t change their actions, but he did have a choice about his own actions. They didn’t understand why we didn’t fight them back. Call them names. Watching his actions enabled them to one day understand their own. Even the people who treat you badly has inside them a Buddha nature. Buddhism also talks a lot about the use of mirrors. Polish your own mirror – your life – and it will show on the outside – in your environment. Then when you bow to the Buddha in the mirror, the Buddha bows back. If we disparage the people we think are doing things “to” us, then we can never learn the lesson of what we did to deserve it. We never learn the lesson.

    Comment by sonniq — 03/16/2015 @ 8:01 pm | Reply

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