The Write Idea

The short version

I am a writer and editor living and working in Asheville, NC.  In previous lives I have been a Presbyterian minister, a house parent for ex-offenders, a stay-at-home (occasionally) mom, a regional church executive, a nonprofit executive and married.  I’m not any of those things now, but one never knows about tomorrow.  I am passionate about many things: my teenaged son, this sacred earth, good writing, good music, good ritual, good friends.



  1. Welcome to the Blogosphere, Laura!
    Glad to know you have a virtual persona emerging from the chrysallis of change. I look forward to seeing what comes forth in the coming months. Blessings on your endeavor.

    Comment by Bill Everett — 02/12/2010 @ 9:18 am | Reply

  2. Hi Laura…I just finished reading your article in Skirt magazine. I am sitting in my kitchen, alone, in tears. My husband of 15 years just left for another woman 6 months ago and I can’t seem to wrap my head around it. I have so much anger, sadness, resentment, confusion, unanswered questions. Is this story non-fiction? I just sent a link to the article to my soon-to-be ex and asked him to read it. We have two children, 11 and 6, and I want to eventually get to the point where you and your ex are now for their well as my own. I want to end up as strong as you…I want to recover.

    Comment by Heather — 04/12/2010 @ 5:05 pm | Reply

  3. Dear Heather,
    I am so sorry for what you are going through. It really, truly sucks — there’s just no easy way around it. Yes, the article was nonfiction. I only changed a few of the names (not my own), but everything else is exactly what happened. I trust that you can find a place of forgiveness and strength, but I can tell you that it doesn’t happen overnight. Give yourself time to experience all the anger and sadness. Unfortunately, you can’t bypass it, even if you try. I hope you have a good support system — lean on your friends as much as you need to. Don’t be afraid to get professional help — I did. It won’t be forever. My husband and I had tried therapy off and on for years, so even though it didn’t work to save our marriage, it did help us as we figured out how to be divorced. We tried to keep the separation agreement itself as acrimony-free as we could, because we knew custody was the most important piece of the agreement and we didn’t want to let “stuff” get in the way of being there for our son. (Easier said than done, of course. It only works if both sides are really trying to be fair. A mediator can help.) Anyway, I could say more, but just know that I feel for you and I’m pulling for you. If you want to contact me off-blog, you can email me at laura at thewriteidea dot org.
    Hang in there! Thanks for writing.

    Comment by ljcollins — 04/12/2010 @ 5:28 pm | Reply

  4. Hey girl!
    I am smiling from one end of the room to the other!! I have tracked you down and barged back into your life!! (Hope you don’t mind! I’ll wipe my feet on the mat!!)
    Just thinking about you makes me feel warm inside right down to the baseline!! I would ask how you are, but it sounds like you are! finding a way!! to be!
    Of course I would hyperventilate with excitement should you ever decide to visit the other side of the pond with your gorgeous offspring in tow but, barring that, maybe we could rendezvous next summer – July 2011….write me!
    love love love

    Comment by Jo Piercey — 09/30/2010 @ 5:16 pm | Reply

    • OH MY GOSH! JO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I tried to find you last year. My mom and I traveled to Spain and Portugal and at one point in our planning it looked like we might stay over in London for a day, but instead we just saw the inside of the airport. But anyway, I was trying to track you down and was so bummed that I had let you slip away. I am so, so glad you found me. You can email me at revlauraj at yahoo dot com. I’d love to rendevouz next summer. Where will you be? I’ll come find you!

      Comment by ljcollins — 09/30/2010 @ 5:23 pm | Reply

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